One of the key paradoxes in Buddhism is that we need goals to be inspired, to grow, and to develop, even to become enlightened, but at the same time we must not get overly fixated or attached to these aspirations. If the goal is noble, your commitment to the goal should not be contingent on your ability to attain it, and in pursuit of our goal, we must release our rigid assumptions about how we must achieve it. Peace and equanimity come from letting go of our attachment to the goal and the method. That is the essence of acceptance.
My friend, Mattison Grey (GreyStoneGuides.com) has a great analogy for this. Imagine you decide that you want to go to California. You are totally clear that you want to go to California. It does not really matter how you get there. You could drive, fly, hitchhike, walk or bike. The thing that matters is that you get to California. The rest is just details.
Do you remember how Superman is affected by kryptonite? A normally unstoppable person (faster than a speeding bullet, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound and so on) becomes totally weak and helpless in the presence of kryptonite. That is the way “how” works for most people. It stops them. It weakens them. It is their kryptonite. Is it your kryptonite? It is important to distinguish between a curious “how” and a kryptonite “how”. A curious “how” – “Wow I wonder how this is going to happen; I wonder how I can accomplish this?” moves you forward. A kryptonite “how” – “I don’t know how to do this!” stops you dead in your tracks. The “how” is to just take that next step, to take action on nudges and inspiration. There is an immense amount of wisdom in the old saying about how a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Oftentimes you cannot see the “how” you cannot possibly see the whole path. However, you can always see the next couple of steps – so get walking. Here is another great old saying that relates to getting stopped by “how”: Inch by inch life is a cinch; by the yard it is hard.
Remember, the universe takes care of the “how” through coincidences, serendipity and synchronicities. We just have to take care of the “what”. We do that by becoming very clear about what we want.
–The Law of Attraction Made Simple – Magnetize Your Heartfelt Desires