Nurturing Relationships

Nurturing Relationships

The Principle of Influence

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“Few needs of the human heart are greater than the need to be understood—to have a voice that is heard, respected, and valued—to have influence. Most believe that the key to influence is communication—getting your point across clearly and speaking persuasively. In fact, if you think about it, don’t you find that, while others are speaking to you, instead of really listening to understand, you are often busy preparing your response? The real beginning of influence comes as others sense you are being influenced by them—when they feel understood by you—that you have listened deeply and sincerely, and that you are open. But most people are too vulnerable emotionally to listen deeply—to suspend their agenda long enough to focus on understanding before they communicate their own ideas. Our culture cries out for, even demands, understanding and influence. However, the principle of influence is governed by mutual understanding born of the commitment of at least one person to deep listening first.” 

-Stephen Covey

Practice Self Compassion

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“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about your self”- Maya Angelou

There’s a humorous office sign that reads “The beatings will continue until morale improves!” We laugh at the sign, but many of us carry an idea that the harsher we are to ourselves, the more likely we are to change.

The opposite is true. Research shows that people who are compassionate toward themselves are better able to take on feedback, grow, and change. They find it easier to adapt because they’re already comfortable with themselves.

They’re less fragile because their whole sense of identity isn’t on the line. They know that what they did isn’t who they are. They can open up, connect, and learn.

Self-compassion doesn’t mean glossing over your failures or challenges. It means supporting yourself while you’re putting them right.

How to Stop Rescuing Other People to Feel Good About Yourself By Andrew Cain

Don’t wait for the parrot to die……!!!.

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This Story is a tale of an old woman  who  bought a parrot to keep her company  and for entertainment, but  she returned it the very  next day of  the purchase.

“This bird doesn’t  talk”, she told the owner.

“Does he have a mirror in his cage?”, he asked. “ Parrot  love mirrors. They see their reflection and start a conversation.” He replied.

The old woman bought a mirror and left in the cage. The next day she returned back and inform the shopkeeper that  the bird still  wasn’t talking .

“How about a ladder? Parrot loves ladders. The happy parrot is a talkative parrot.”

The woman bought a ladder and left it in the cage, But the next day, she was back.

“ Does your parrot have a swing? No? Well, that’s the problem. Once he starts swinging, he’ll talk up like a storm.”

The Old lady reluctantly bought a swing and left. When she walked into the store next day, her countenance had changed.

“The parrot died”, She said.

The Pet store owner was shocked.  “I’m so sorry. Tell me. Did he ever say anything?”, he asked.

“Yes, right before it died” , the woman replied.

“In a weak voice, it asked me, ‘ don’t  they  sell any food at that pet store?”

 Sometimes we forget what’s really important in Life. We get so caught up in things that are good while neglecting the things that are truly necessary.


Take a moment to do a priority check and strive for what is most important today.


Don’t  wait for the parrot to die……!!!.