With forgiveness, events and people are re-contextualized as simply “limited”—not “bad” or “unlovable.” With humility, we are willing to relinquish our perception of a past event. We pray for a miracle to see the truth about the situation or person, and we surrender all of our opinions about the matter. We look at the payoffs we’re getting from keeping our perception of what occurred, and we let go of each little payoff: the pleasure of self-pity, of “being right,” of being “wronged,” and of our resentments. Continue reading
Everyday Krishna would go in the garden and say to all the plants, “I love you”.
The plants were very happy and responded saying “Krishna, we love You too”.
One day Krishna rushed quickly into the garden very
alarmed. Continue reading
Look at how mindful we are of our smartphones. People have little recharging shrines all over their houses, with a cord permanently attached to an outlet right by the door or by the bed. For many of us the first thing we do when we get home is make sure our phone gets recharged. Continue reading
“If other people do not understand our behavior—so what? Their request that we must only do what they understand is an attempt to dictate to us. If this is being “asocial” or “irrational” in their eyes, so be it. Mostly they resent our freedom and our courage to be ourselves. We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as our acts do not hurt or infringe on them. Continue reading
One of the key paradoxes in Buddhism is that we need goals to be inspired, to grow, and to develop, even to become enlightened, but at the same time we must not get overly fixated or attached to these aspirations. If the goal is noble, your commitment to the goal should not be contingent on your ability to attain it, and in pursuit of our goal, we must release our rigid assumptions about how we must achieve it. Peace and equanimity come from letting go of our attachment to the goal and the method. That is the essence of acceptance.
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“Arianna Huffington has written a passionate and much needed prescription for reshaping life from the inside out. Turn off your cell phone, your email, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and every other tool of the stressed-out, distracted world to spend some time thinking about grace, joy and wonder. You’ll be glad you did.” –Ellen Goodman, Pulitzer prize winning columnist and bestselling author of I Know Just What You Mean
of wit, wisdom, and practical advice for changing our lives by changing
our values. After all, why should we be content just to live when we can
thrive?” -Anne-Marie Slaughter, professor, Princeton University, author of What Works for Women at Work
“This is a generous, urgent, vital book, a chance to redefine how we keep score before it’s too late. Arianna has given us a gift, and delivered it with style. Read it!” -Seth Godin, bestselling author of The Icarus Deception
“You can feel Arianna’s passion for her subject on every page of this book. Arianna has reflected on and struggled with how best to define success ever since I met her more than 30 years ago. In Thrive she’s created a new paradigm for redefining how to systematically build a life of purpose and balance and accomplishment— the whole life we’re all ultimately after.” -Tony Schwartz, CEO, The Energy Project, author of The Way We’re Working Isn’t Working
“Beautiful, bold and brilliant…. I must confess I did not just read this book, I entered into long conversations with it. Rarely comes a title that makes you stop whatever you are doing and look at yourself in a new light, look within. Arianna Huffington is a compassionate rebel; she not only changes the world but also understands it. Her latest book Thrive profoundly transforms our understanding of success and wakes us up from the broken dreams we chase.” -Elif Shafak, bestselling author of Honor and The Forty Rules of Love
“Warning: The content of this book is highly contagious. Even slight exposure may set you on a path to far clearer seeing, a radical resetting of your priorities, deep contentment, and, of course, thriving. Chances are, it will also melt your heart.” -Jon Kabat-Zinn, professor, UMass Medical School, author of Full Catastrophe Living
“One of the most important books of this century. Weaving a tapestry of home-spun wisdom, science and compelling life stories, this is a profoundly uplifting and practical book that has something for everyone. A must read for anyone wishing to live life more fully.” -Richard J. Davidson, founder and chair, Center for Investigating Healthy Minds, University of Wisconsin-Madison
“Not only is Thrive rich in worldly wisdom and brimming with motivation, it gives us the practical tools to help us reconnect to what is deepest and best inside of us. With evidence and inspiration, Arianna gently shows us how to face the craziness of life today with awareness, grace and a sense of humor. I have a feeling I’ll be referencing this book for a long time.” -Congressman Tim Ryan, Ohio, author of A Mindful Nation
Transition, is the process of letting go of the way things used to be and then taking hold of the way they subsequently become. In between the letting go and the taking hold again, there is a chaotic but potentially creative “neutral zone” when things aren’t the old way, but aren’t really a new way yet either. This three-phase process-ending, neutral zone, beginning again-is transition. Transition is the way that we all come to terms with change. Without transition, a change is mechanical, superficial, empty.
Whatever its details, an outer loss is best understood as a surrogate for some inner relinquishment that must be made, but one that is difficult to describe. What it is time to let go of is not so much the relationship or the job itself, but rather the hopes, fears, dreams and beliefs that we have attached to them. Continue reading