we are frequently more focused on ‘being interesting’ and less focused on ‘taking an interest.’

“When we fear what other people think about us, we are frequently more focused on ‘being interesting’ and less focused on ‘taking an interest.’ That’s why many people talk a great deal when they are anxious and why many people never feel heard. If both people and conversation are trying to be interesting, there is no one left to genuinely listen.”
― John Yokoyama, When Fish Fly: Lessons for Creating a Vital and Energized Workplace from the World Famous Pike Place Fish Market

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Tough times never last, but tough people do. – Robert H. Schulle

75 Reminders for Tough Times

  1. You never know how strong you really are until being strong is the only choice you have.
  2. Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
  3. You cannot change what you refuse to confront.
  4. Nobody is perfect, and nobody deserves to be perfect.  Nobody has it easy.  You never know what people are going through.  Every one of us has issues.  So don’t belittle yourself or anyone else.  Everybody is fighting their own unique war.
  5. Crying doesn’t indicate that you’re weak.  Since birth, it has always been a sign that you’re alive and full of potential.
  6. No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.  (Read Unstoppable.)
  7. Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.
  8. Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.  Let it go.
  9. Making one person smile can change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  Start small.  Start now.
  10. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
  11. Never let success get to your head, and never let failure get to your heart.
  12. You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life.
  13. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.
  14. You can learn great things from your mistakes when you aren’t busy denying them.
  15. Give up worrying about what others think of you.  What they think isn’t important.  What is important is how you feel about yourself.

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We are all waves of one vast ocean…

You were in a state of non-duality before your birth, and after death you will return to that same state. Just for a while, in between, there is this wave with all its sound and fury , its momentary rising and its dance in the sunshine. And so for a time the wave gets the idea that “I also exist”. The thundering waves of the Pacific Ocean: Scientists have found evidence of an ecosystem 2.5km beneath the surface of the ocean, actually inside the basalt of the Earth's crustEach wave must feel that it is separate from the ocean, it must. And it must also feel that all waves rising around it are separate from it. It must feel like this – and there is a logic behind it. If the wave has its logic , if it has its own intelligence, then it will wonder, “How can I be one with other waves?” It may think, “Some waves are so small, some are so big. We are all so different – how can it be that we are all one?” It will also wonder, “Some waves are falling , while I am just beginning to rise, s how can I be one with the falling waves? If I were one with the falling waves, I would be falling too. Or if a falling wave were really one with me, it would also be rising, like I am.” Continue reading