“When I say maturity, I mean an inner integrity. And this inner integrity comes only when you stop making others responsible, when you stop saying that the other is creating your suffering, when you start realizing that you are the creator of your suffering. This is the first step towards maturity: I am responsible. Whatsoever is happening, it is my doing. Continue reading
Maturity
மன முதிர்ச்சி என்றால் என்ன? What is Maturity of Mind ?
1. மற்றவர்களை திருத்துவதை விட்டுவிட்டு நம்மை திருத்திக்கொள்வது.
1.Correcting ourselves without trying to correct others.
2. அனைவரையும் அப்படியே (குறைகளுடன்) ஏற்றுக்கொள்வது.
2. Accepting others with their short comings.
3. மற்றவர்களின் கருத்துக்களை அவர்கள் கோணத்திலிருந்து புரிந்துகொள்ளுதல்.
3. Understanding the opinions of others from their perspectives.
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If other people do not understand our behavior—so what?
“If other people do not understand our behavior—so what? Their request that we must only do what they understand is an attempt to dictate to us. If this is being “asocial” or “irrational” in their eyes, so be it. Mostly they resent our freedom and our courage to be ourselves. We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as our acts do not hurt or infringe on them. Continue reading
How to be Perfect…
Get some sleep.
Eat an orange every morning.
Be friendly. It will help make you happy.
Hope for everything. Expect nothing.
Take care of things close to home first. Straighten up your room
before you save the world. Then save the world.
Be nice to people before they have a chance to behave badly. Continue reading
Surrender
You mentioned “surrender” a few times. I don’t like that idea. It sounds somewhat fatalistic. If we always accept the way things are, we are not going to make any effort to improve them. It seems to me what progress is all about, both in our personal lives and collectively, is not to accept the limitations of the present but to strive to go beyond them and create something better. If we hadn’t done this, we would still be living in caves. How do you reconcile surrender with changing things and getting things done?
To some people, surrender may have negative connotations, implying defeat, giving up, failing to rise to the challenges of life, becoming lethargic, and so on. True surrender, however, is something entirely different. It does not mean to passively put up with whatever situation you find yourself in and to do nothing about it. Nor does it mean to cease making plans or initiating positive action…..
To….Surrender is the simple but profound wisdom of yielding to rather than opposing the flow of life. The only place where you can experience the flow of life is the Now, so to surrender is to accept the present moment unconditionally and without reservation. It is to relinquish inner resistance to what is. Inner resistance is to say “no” to what is, through mental judgment and emotional negativity. It becomes particularly pronounced when things “go wrong,” which means that there is a gap between the demands or rigid expectations of your mind and what is. That is the pain gap. If you have lived long enough, you will know that things “go wrong” quite often. It is precisely at those times that surrender needs to be practiced if you want to eliminate pain and sorrow from your life. Acceptance of what is immediately frees you from mind identification and thus reconnects you with Being. Resistance is the mind.
Surrender is a purely inner phenomenon. It does not mean that on the outer level you cannot take action and change the situation. In fact, it is not the overall situation that you need to accept when you surrender, but just the tiny segment called the Now.
– Ekhart Tolle from ‘The Power of Now’
Risking all to be oneself, that’s what maturity is all about
“Listen to your being. It is continuously giving you hints; it is a still, small voice. Continue reading
Maturity is accepting the responsibility of being oneself, whatsoever the cost.
“Listen to your being. It is continuously giving you hints; it is a still, small voice. Continue reading
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