Talking to the elephant in the room

Yes, we’re all doing stuff from our home offices. I don’t know what your office is like, but mine’s quite nice. I like it. Until I noticed a strange smell yesterday. Didn’t know what it was, so I had to look around the room a lot, then suddenly realised …

… there was an elephant in the room.

How the hell did I miss that?

I mean it’s huge!

How could you spend days, weeks, months, working in the home office and miss it?

How long has it been there? And what does it represent?

I didn’t know, so I asked it. Here’s how the conversation went.

Learning to fight without the Ego

There is a Sufi story: It happened in the life of Omar, a great Mohammedan Caliph. He was fighting with an enemy for thirty years. The enemy was very strong and the fight continued – a lifetime of war. In the end, it happened one day that the opportunity came. The enemy fell off his horse and Omar jumped on him with his spear. In just one second the spear would have pierced the heart of the man and everything would have been finished. But in that small gap the enemy did one thing: he spat on Omar’s face – and the spear stopped. Omar touched his face, got up and told the enemy, ‘Tomorrow we start again.’ The enemy was puzzled. He said, ‘What is the matter? I have been waiting for this for thirty years, and you have been waiting for this for thirty years.

I have been waiting, hoping that someday or other I would be on your chest with my spear and the thing would be finished. That opportunity never came to me, but it came your way. You could have finished me in a single moment. What is the matter with you?’

In the eyes of the ego, self-esteem and humility are contradictory. In truth, they are one and the same Picture Quote #1 Continue reading

Book Recommendation : I Am the Word: A Guide to the Consciousness of Man’s Self in a Transitioning Time by Paul Selig

We are forever grateful to Andrew and Roya for inviting us to a mind blowing session by Paul Selig when we visited NYC a few years ago. It was no coincidence, it was meant to be and it was life changing. There are no words to explain the book – its an experience for those who wish to ‘pause, reflect and go inwards’ . – One Tusk

Let me start by saying that any kind of review for this book will never come close to including the right words. Recommended to me by a writer friend when asking about books on intuition, I had no idea what this was or what to expect. Now, looking back on it, and after dog-earring almost every damn page, I realize this isn’t a book. Continue reading

Book Recommendation – Working Identity: Unconventional Strategies for Reinventing Your Career

Whether as a daydream or a spoken desire, nearly all of us have entertained the notion of reinventing ourselves. Feeling unfulfilled, burned out, or just plain unhappy with what we’re doing, we long to make that leap into the unknown. But we also hold on, white-knuckled, to the years of time and effort we’ve invested in our current profession.

In this powerful book, Herminia Ibarra presents a new model for career reinvention that flies in the face of everything we’ve learned from “career experts.” While common wisdom holds that we must first know what we want to do before we can act, Ibarra argues that this advice is backward. Knowing, she says, is the result of doing and experimenting. Career transition is not a straight path toward some predetermined identity, but a crooked journey along which we try on a host of “possible selves” we might become.

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