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Book of the Month – February 2023: The Inner Game of Tennis by Timothy Gallwey

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A phenomenon when first published in 1972, the Inner Game was a real revelation. Instead of serving up technique, it concentrated on the fact that, as Gallwey wrote, “Every game is composed of two parts, an outer game and an inner game.” The former is played against opponents, and is filled with lots of contradictory advice; the latter is played not against, but within the mind of the player, and its principal obstacles are self-doubt and anxiety. Gallwey’s revolutionary thinking, built on a foundation of Zen thinking and humanistic psychology, was really a primer on how to get out of your own way to let your best game emerge. It was sports psychology before the two words were pressed against each other and codified into an accepted discipline.

The new edition of this remarkable work–Billie Jean King called the original her tennis bible–refines Gallwey’s theories on concentration, gamesmanship, breaking bad habits, learning to trust yourself on the court, and awareness. “No matter what a person’s complaint when he has a lesson with me, I have found the most beneficial first step,” he stressed, “is to encourage him to see and feel what he is doing–that is, to increase his awareness of what actually is.”

Practice Self Compassion

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“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about your self”- Maya Angelou

There’s a humorous office sign that reads “The beatings will continue until morale improves!” We laugh at the sign, but many of us carry an idea that the harsher we are to ourselves, the more likely we are to change.

The opposite is true. Research shows that people who are compassionate toward themselves are better able to take on feedback, grow, and change. They find it easier to adapt because they’re already comfortable with themselves.

They’re less fragile because their whole sense of identity isn’t on the line. They know that what they did isn’t who they are. They can open up, connect, and learn.

Self-compassion doesn’t mean glossing over your failures or challenges. It means supporting yourself while you’re putting them right.

How to Stop Rescuing Other People to Feel Good About Yourself By Andrew Cain

And never be confused between seriousness and sincerity – seriousness is not sincerity.

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….If you cannot laugh, how can you weep? how can you cry? Both become impossible. When laughter and crying are impossible, your heart is completely dosed. You don’t have any emotions, you start living only in the head. Your whole reality consists of thoughts. Thoughts are dry – they cannot bring laughter, they cannot bring tears. Tears and laughter come from the heart. And clarity is not of the mind, clarity is of the heart. Confusion is of the mind.

….. Laugh more, cry more, become a child again. Seriousness is your disease: drop seriousness.

And never be confused between seriousness and sincerity – seriousness is not sincerity. Sincerity need not be serious; sincerity can have laughter, can cry, can weep. Seriousness is a blocked stage of mind, a stage where you cannot flow. A state of unflow stagnancy. Serious people are ill people.

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Unblocking the Flow of Abundance

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The flow of abundance can get blocked at any one of six steps:

  1. Clarify your purpose. Have a clear sense of what your life is about and what you value most.
  2. Look for lessons in your areas of shortage. The aspects of your life where there is a lack exist to teach you something.
  3. Learn to be grateful for what you do have. Move beyond distorted perceptions and see clearly the parts of your life where you are greatly blessed.
  4. Give what you can. By joyfully and freely giving, you redefine yourself as someone whose life is abundant.
  5. Expect and accept the good that comes to you. Be alert to the necessary resources in whatever form they may come—expected or unexpected.
  6. Giving and receiving build community. Be open to building or reinforcing interpersonal relations based on mutual care.

Look over the list of six points. Which one of them seems weakest in your life? That is, which one is most in need of further application? Make a personal commitment to do something about it and follow through with your resolution.

–Mark Thurston from Edgar Cayce Handbook of Creating Your Future

Don’t wait for the parrot to die……!!!.

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This Story is a tale of an old woman  who  bought a parrot to keep her company  and for entertainment, but  she returned it the very  next day of  the purchase.

“This bird doesn’t  talk”, she told the owner.

“Does he have a mirror in his cage?”, he asked. “ Parrot  love mirrors. They see their reflection and start a conversation.” He replied.

The old woman bought a mirror and left in the cage. The next day she returned back and inform the shopkeeper that  the bird still  wasn’t talking .

“How about a ladder? Parrot loves ladders. The happy parrot is a talkative parrot.”

The woman bought a ladder and left it in the cage, But the next day, she was back.

“ Does your parrot have a swing? No? Well, that’s the problem. Once he starts swinging, he’ll talk up like a storm.”

The Old lady reluctantly bought a swing and left. When she walked into the store next day, her countenance had changed.

“The parrot died”, She said.

The Pet store owner was shocked.  “I’m so sorry. Tell me. Did he ever say anything?”, he asked.

“Yes, right before it died” , the woman replied.

“In a weak voice, it asked me, ‘ don’t  they  sell any food at that pet store?”

 Sometimes we forget what’s really important in Life. We get so caught up in things that are good while neglecting the things that are truly necessary.


Take a moment to do a priority check and strive for what is most important today.


Don’t  wait for the parrot to die……!!!.       

Top of Mind – 29th September 2022

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“What we leave behind is not what is engraved on stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.”

Pericles

“Our death is not an end if we live on in our children and the younger generation. For they are us.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Book of the Month – September 2022 : The Instant Millionaire by Mark Fisher

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Do those who succeed work harder than those who only dream about success? Are they smarter, luckier, more ruthless? And does financial success bring happiness? These perennial questions are perhaps more timely than ever. The Instant Millionaire answers them in the unforgettable voice of a very wise and wealthy old man. Known as the “Instant Millionaire” because he grasped the true secret of making a fortune overnight, this sage mentors a young man with frustrated dreams and nine-to-five disappointments. In practical, ready-to-implement lessons, he reveals the ideas and actions that can give anyone the mentality of a millionaire. This simple yet powerful mental shift paves the way not only for financial success but also for profound personal fulfillment and well-being.

the problematic situations in your life are not chance or haphazard….

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“Your conflicts, all the difficult things, the problematic situations in your life are not chance or haphazard. They are actually yours. They are specifically yours, designed specifically for you by a part of you that loves you more than anything else. The part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to yourself. You are not going in the right direction unless there is something pricking you in the side, telling you, “Look here! This way!” That part of you loves you so much that it doesn’t want you to lose the chance. It will go to extreme measures to wake you up, it will make you suffer greatly if you don’t listen. What else can it do? That is its purpose.”