life situations can serve as signals to alert us to an imminent transition…..

Each of us lives in a world, and that world is meant to dry up in its time like a withering flower to make way for the growth that follows it. Lacking an understanding of the process, we are depressed and discouraged when it happens. We say that things aren’t going well for us. We look for ways to solve our problems, fix things, and get our lives back on track again. Of course, “back on track” means “back on the track they were on before we encountered this difficulty.” And that means “back into the life that it was actually time to let go of.”

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Above all else I want to see differently

Letting go involves being aware of a feeling, letting it come up, staying with it, and letting it run its course without wanting to make it different or do anything about it. It means simply to let the feeling be there and to focus on letting out the energy behind it

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The first step is to allow yourself to have the feeling without resisting it, venting it, fearing it, condemning it, or moralizing about it. It means to drop judgment and to see that it is just a feeling.

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What is it time for me to let go of ?

Whatever its details, an outer loss is best understood as a surrogate for some inner relinquishment that must be made, but one that is difficult to describe. What it is time to let go of is not so much the relationship or the job itself, but rather the hopes, fears, dreams and beliefs that we have attached to them. If you let go only of the job or the relationship, you’ll just find another one and attach the same .hopes, fears, dreams and beliefs to it. And, on the other hand, you may find that you can let go of those inner attitudes without actually terminating the outer situation. Continue reading

Letting Go Takes Love

Image result for letting goTo let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means  the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,  but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more.
Remember:  The time to love is short.
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“Drop the Rock!”

Our fear of change, our fear of stepping into new realities, is so deep that we desperately cling to the world we know. We often mistake familiarity for safety. The perceived comfort we derive from what is familiar keeps us living in the illusion of our stories. But the question we should ponder is, Are we really safe inside our stories? Instead of risking change, we hold on for dear life and resist the uncertainty of the unknown.drop the rock mantra Continue reading

To let go takes Love

To Let Go” doesn’t mean to stop caring it means I can’t do it for someone else.

“To Let Go” is not to cut myself off, it is the realization I can’t control another.

“To Let Go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.

“To Let Go” is to admit powerlessness which means the outcome is not in my hands.

“To Let Go” is not to try to change or blame another it is to make the most of myself.

“To Let Go” is not to care for but to care about, not to fix but be supportive.

“To Let Go” is not to judge but to allow another to be a human being.

“To Let Go” is to not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow another to affect their own destiny.

“To Let Go” is not to be protective; it is to permit another to face reality.

“To Let Go” is not to deny, but to accept.

“To Let Go” is not to nag, scold, or argue but instead to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.

“To Let Go” is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.

“To Let Go” is not to regret the past but to grow and live for the present and for the future.

“To Let Go” is to fear less, and to love more…”

–  Robert Paul Gilles, Jr.