Suggested by Sathyam
1. To solve an issue quickly, be soft on the person and hard on the problem.
2. Pretend everyone was sent to teach you something.
3. Pause in speaking + eye contact = confidence.
4. Make people feel important with the SHR Method: Seen, Heard, Remembered.
5. A person’s favorite sound is their name, so remember it (h/t Dale Carnegie).
6. “Praise publicly. Criticize privately.” —Warren Buffett
7. To give feedback, first let the other person know you have their back.
8. “Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.” —Neil Strauss
9. The best networking strategy is a helping others first strategy.
10. Loneliness is a silent pandemic; assume people want to meet you.
Continue readingImagine what would spring from that global peace—the beautiful flowers of kindness. Imagine a world where society uses its talents, resources, and energy for the good of all. Where the many, many billions of dollars currently spent on defense are used instead to attack disease rather than each other. Where communities and families aren’t fractured by violence and crime but are united, strong, understanding, and caring. Where everyone’s home is safe, comfortable, and welcoming. Where new technologies are designed to serve humankind, helping us prosper. Where there is plentiful food and water, and we happily share what we have with friends, neighbors, and strangers. Where borders are no more than lines on old maps. Where creatures of every shape and size have space to thrive. Where Nature is loved and respected. Where our villages, towns, and cities overflow with gratitude and generosit
Imagine that world….
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The Pathless Path is not a how-to book filled with “hacks”; instead, it is a vulnerable account of Paul’s journey from leaving a path centered around getting ahead and towards another, one focused on doing work that matters. This book is an ideal companion for people considering leaving their jobs, embarking on a new path, dealing with the uncertainty of an unconventional path, or searching for better models for thinking about work in a fast-changing world.
” On the pathless path, retirement is neither a destination nor a financial calculation, but a continuation of a life well-lived. This shifts attention from focusing on saving for the future to understanding how you want to live in the present.”
“The pathless path has been my way to release myself from the achievement narrative that I had been unconsciously following. I was able to shift away from a life built on getting ahead and towards one focused on coming alive. I was able to grapple with the hard questions of life, the ones we try so hard to ignore. And I was able to keep moving when I realized that the hardest questions often don’t have answers.”
Reader feedback:
“It’s a rare book in that it is tangentially about careers and being more focused and productive, but unlike almost every other book I have read about these topics, I finished this one and felt better about myself and my career.”
“The themes are timeless. The content is expertly written. The advice is refreshingly non-prescriptive.”
“If you have questioned your own path, or a nagging lack of intention in your choices you need this book. If you have felt a gradual loss of agency in your direction you need this book. You are in the grip of an invisible script that was not written for you.” – Kris Abdelmessih
“The writing is fantastic – Paul’s writing is approachably poetic; a quick read that weaves together his own experience moving from a ‘default path’ overachiever to a ‘pathless path’ seeker of passion and curiosity, deep research into the history of work and collections of perspectives from years of podcasting, friendship, conferences, and meetings with other ‘alternative path’ life-livers.”
The American dream has been a nightmare.
“The American dream is not possible for the Chinese, nor the Indians or the Vietnamese. The American dream is no longer possible for the Americans. We cannot continue to live like this. It is not a sustainable economy.”
“We have created a society in which the rich become richer and the poor become poorer, and in which we are so caught up in our own immediate problems that we cannot afford to be aware of what is going on with the rest of the human family or our planet Earth.
In my mind I see a group of chickens in a cage disputing over some seeds of grain, unaware that in a few hours they will be killed.”
“There are among us men and women who are awakened, but it’s not enough; the masses are still sleeping. They cannot hear the ringing of the bells. We have built a system we cannot control. This system imposes itself on us, and we have become its slaves and victims. Most of us, in order to have a house, a car, a refrigerator, a TV, and so on, must sacrifice our time and our lives in exchange.”
Quotes from an article by Thich Nhat Hanh: The World We Have.
….If you cannot laugh, how can you weep? how can you cry? Both become impossible. When laughter and crying are impossible, your heart is completely dosed. You don’t have any emotions, you start living only in the head. Your whole reality consists of thoughts. Thoughts are dry – they cannot bring laughter, they cannot bring tears. Tears and laughter come from the heart. And clarity is not of the mind, clarity is of the heart. Confusion is of the mind.
….. Laugh more, cry more, become a child again. Seriousness is your disease: drop seriousness.
And never be confused between seriousness and sincerity – seriousness is not sincerity. Sincerity need not be serious; sincerity can have laughter, can cry, can weep. Seriousness is a blocked stage of mind, a stage where you cannot flow. A state of unflow stagnancy. Serious people are ill people.
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Sufi Story – The Begging Bowl
A king was coming out of his palace for his morning walk when he met a beggar. He asked the beggar,
“What do you want?”
“You are asking me as though you can fulfill my desire!”
The king was offended. He said,
“Of course I can fulfill your desire. What is it? Just tell me.”
And the beggar said, “ Okay if you insist but on one condition..so think twice before you promise anything.”
The emperor had seen many beggars – but beggars with conditions?
And this beggar was really strange, a very powerful man. He was a Sufi Mystic. He had charm, a charisma, his personality had an aura. Even the king felt a little jealous. And conditions?
The emperor said, ” What do you mean ? What is your condition?”
The beggar said, “It is a very simple one. You see this begging bowl?
I accept only if you can fill my begging bowl absolutely.”
It was a small begging bowl. The king said, “Of course. What do you think I am? I cannot fill this dirty small begging bowl ?”
The beggar said, “It is better to tell you before, because later you can get into trouble. If you think you can fill, then come start filling.”
The king called his vizier and told him to fill to fill it with precious stones, with diamonds, rubies and emralds. Let this beggar know with whom he is talking. But then comes the difficulty. The bowl was filled, but the king was surprised- as the stones fell into it, it would disappear. It was filled many times and each time it was again empty.
Now he was in a great rage, but told the vizier, “Even if the whole kingdom goes, if my all treasuries are emptied, let them be- but I cannot allow this beggar to defeat me.”
And all the treasures, it is said, disappeared. By and by the king became a beggar. It took months. And the beggar was there, king was there and the whole capital was there and everybody was wondering what was going to happen, what would happen in the end.
Everything was simply disappearing. Finally the king had to fall at the feet of the beggar and he said, ” Forgive me, but before you leave just tell me one thing. What is the secret of this begging bowl? All has disappeared in it “
The beggar started laughing. He said, “It is made of human ego, everything disappears in it, nothing ever fulfils it.”
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