There are two different ways man can intend to grow spiritually. One is through conscious intention, and one is through getting bounced around enough that one has to go there out of necessity. That is “hitting a bottom,” if you wish, or having an experience of being confronted with something that the conscious mind, and the tools that the conscious mind has had to fix it, suddenly fail. So people learn that way all the time and we do not judge it.

Paul Selig