We resist transition not because we can’t accept the change, but because we can’t let go of that piece of ourselves that we have to give up

Transition, is the process of letting go of the way things used to be and then taking hold of the way they subsequently become. In between the letting go and the taking hold again, there is a chaotic but potentially creative “neutral zone” when things aren’t the old way, but aren’t really a new way yet either. This three-phase process-ending, neutral zone, beginning again-is transition. Transition is the way that we all come to terms with change. Continue reading

To let go takes Love

To Let Go” doesn’t mean to stop caring it means I can’t do it for someone else.

“To Let Go” is not to cut myself off, it is the realization I can’t control another.

“To Let Go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.

“To Let Go” is to admit powerlessness which means the outcome is not in my hands.

“To Let Go” is not to try to change or blame another it is to make the most of myself.

“To Let Go” is not to care for but to care about, not to fix but be supportive.

“To Let Go” is not to judge but to allow another to be a human being.

“To Let Go” is to not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow another to affect their own destiny.

“To Let Go” is not to be protective; it is to permit another to face reality.

“To Let Go” is not to deny, but to accept.

“To Let Go” is not to nag, scold, or argue but instead to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.

“To Let Go” is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.

“To Let Go” is not to regret the past but to grow and live for the present and for the future.

“To Let Go” is to fear less, and to love more…”

–  Robert Paul Gilles, Jr.

Book Recommendation : The Way Of Transition by William Bridges

 

When author Bill Bridges’s wife died from breast cancer, he began to question all his previous groundbreaking work on transitions. Having conducted seminars and written bestselling books (TransitionsManaging Transitions), Bridges had built a reputation as an expert on the topic. And yet, “I felt now that my words had totally failed to match in depth the experience of actually being in transition,” he explains.

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Change is not only the path ahead, but it is also the path behind us

Disenchantment, whether it is a minor disappointment or a major shock, is the signal that things are moving into transition in our lives.“ ~ William Bridges

Transition: Long winding road through hillside

 

 

 

 

 

It’s a paradox: To achieve continuity, we have to be willing to change. Change is, in fact, the only way to protect whatever exists, for without continuous readjustment the present cannot continue.

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