Your parents were doing something because they were taught to do those things. They were brought up by parents also; they had not come from heaven directly. So what is the point of throwing the responsibility backwards? It will not help to solve any problem. It will help only to unburden you from guilt. That is the good part, the beneficial part of psychoanalysis. It unburdens you from guilt. And the harmful part is that it does not make you feel responsible. I teach you responsibility.
What do I mean by responsibility? You are not responsible to your parents, and you are not responsible to any God, and you are not responsible to any priest – you are responsible to your inner being. Responsibility is freedom! Responsibility is the idea that “I have to take the reins of my life in my own hands. Enough is enough! My parents, whatsoever they could do they have done: good and bad, they have done both. Now I have become a mature person. I should take everything in my own hands and start living the way it arises in me. I should devote all my energies to my life now.” And immediately you will feel a great strength coming to you.
Guilt makes you feel weak. Responsibility makes you feel strong. Responsibility gives you heart again, confidence, trust.